Real loss only occurs…..
August 2nd, 2006 by timelady
… when you lose something that you love more than yourself
The loss of a child is the searing pit of pain into which you descend, and when you emerge again, you are burnt and scarred. You survive, but something inside you is always in pain. You just learnt to hide it better every day.
To one of my dearest friends, who has lost her husband, her child, her faith, her hope, everything she believed in, hang on dear one. You still have us. You still have you. We all love you, and one day, one day, we may understand. I sure as hell dont at the moment.
I offered my soul, but it wasnt enough. I’m sorry. If there was a god to bargain with, I would have. Anything to spare you this loss, anything that was mine to give would have been on offer.
We now share something else. The knowledge of a pain I never wanted you to understand, never wanted us to share. We both now are mothers who have held our loss in our arms. A sorrow I could not wish on anyone, came to one of the dearest people ever.
As to why he left, I dont know that he knows. So how can answers come? Maybe there isnt any, for now.
Be gentle on yourself, lady.
It will get better, one day. One day at a time. Time is a gift.
Katie Says
My heart goes out to you also.
I, through a choice I made, said goodbye to my first child. No matter the reason, the pain is still real and will always be with me.
You have my support should you need to call upon it.
Aug 3rd, 2006 at 9:30 am
Bruce Says
I’m sorry for you and your friend. I’ve never had children so I can’t understand the way it must feel to lose one, but to see my grandmother have to endure the loss of her son when my father died gives me some understanding that it’s one of the toughest ordeals life can throw at you.
Best wishes
Bruce
Aug 5th, 2006 at 4:45 pm